“When was the last time you said, ‘I need help’ to someone?”
This question was posed to me this morning. I could not recall the last time I admitted a need of assistance from someone, not even my husband. For some reason I prefer to pretend that I am self-sufficient. I think part of me feels like I need to do everything myself because of my SAHM title. I’m sure my husband would rather me ask him to help with tasks rather than have a stressed, scattered, tired wife.
Most people are more than willing to help when asked. I need to change my mindset and realize that life is much more enjoyable with others rather than pretending to live on an island. I lament not having family close by but fail to invite friends to become my local body of support.
I do ask God for help but it’s not asking him to bring helpers to me. Often it’s asking him to give me the ability to keep working independently or to be a help to others. Obviously I need to learn how to ask for help and accept offers of help from others. There’s nothing wrong with showing vulnerability or admitting I don’t always have it all together.
So here’s a request for help. How does one change an independent, self-sufficient mindset? Do I seek opportunities to include others in everyday tasks? Do I say yes to more/most offers of assistance? Has anyone else struggled with this and been able to find success/freedom in this area?